Formal Blog 11

Some of my positive traits include kindness, fairness, faithfulness, loyalty, and tolerance. These traits are positive because it is good to be kind and treat people fair and equal. Also it is good to be loyal those that are close to you. Some of my negative traits include stubbornness, pessimism, and being picky. Being stubborn is a very negative trait of mine because I'm always picking fights with people and insist that I am right, even though I know that sometimes I am wrong. I guess it can be considered slightly positive because I don't give up and show weakness. Pessimism is also negative because I am always pointing out flaws in everything that I see. For example if there was a book that I was reading, I would talk more about why the book was bad and where it needs improvement, instead of saying what I enjoyed about it.

Like I said before I can be quite pessimistic. Although I can be pessimistic I don't think that I fit into a particular category. I am both optimistic and pessimistic. I am optimistic when I try to encourage people. I try to help other people see positive points of problems that they might be facing. When it comes to myself, I can be quite pessimistic. I often find fault with myself and tend to feel ashamed and disappointed with myself. Being pessimistic and optimistic both impact my life because it shapes me as a person. Negative feelings may hold me back but it a way they can help make me stronger. For example the death of a family member may make me feel very sad and I might complain how everything around me is depressing or that I don't like anything anymore. This will make me stronger once I can get past the sad feelings. I will mature and become stronger when facing death or other sad events. Positive feelings of optimism will help me move forward. I will feel unstoppable, like everything is going right for me. Pessimism and optimism play an important role in my life.

My personality changes from situation to situation depending on my mood. I may react a particular way in one situation and, if my mood changes, a completely different way even though it is the same situation. One day I might look forward to going to Psychology class and a different day I might dread going. It might depend on how my day was going earlier or it might depend on the topic of discussion for class. My personality might change when meeting knew people. I might be shy and sweet to a person that I just meet, but I will joke around and be loud with a friend that I have known for a long time. The reason my traits change is possibly because I am unfamiliar with some surroundings and I am not sure how to act. I might not trust the surrounding so I will be quiet and keep to myself. My traits are shifting depending on my surrounding and what is happening around me.

Some defense mechanisms that I use include displacement and denial. I believe that I use displacement because I have a temper and often take my anger out on objects. I have been angry enough do break a cabinet mirror by slamming it shut. The reason I slammed the cabinet shut was because I was running late for school and I could not get my contacts in. I am very, very ashamed of my temper and I do not like to talk about it. This is where denial comes in. I often deny having a temper because I do not like to talk about it. Other times I get frustrated because of a bad day and I argue and flight with my family.. Being angry embarrasses me and makes me feel like a bad person so I try to ignore and forget about it.